How to Keep an English Conversation Going

It can be difficult to keep a conversation going. Even if you understand what the other person is saying, you can feel "blocked" or "frozen" when it's your turn to speak. The words or phrases you need don't often come quickly enough to mind.

The more opportunities you can get to use and speak English, the easier it is to find the right words when you need them. Take every chance you get to use your English! See How to practise your English for lots of ideas to find speaking opportunities.

Sounding fluent and confident in a few words

Here are some useful ways to keep the conversation going. The "secret" is that you don't actually need many words to do this!

1. Show interest in the other speaker
You don't need to say much. Often just one word is needed to show you are interested and listening. Try "Really?" (with a rising intonation), "Right" or "Sure". You could even show you are listening with a non-word such as "Mmm" or Uh-huh".

"I hate watching rubbish on the TV."
"Right."

2. Use a short phrase to show your feelings
For example, "How awful", "Oh no!", "You're joking", "What a pity" etc.

"My neighbour had a car accident yesterday."
"Oh no!"
"Yes, but thankfully he wasn't hurt."
"Mmm."

3. Ask a short question
You can use an auxiliary verb to make a short question which will encourage the other speaker to keep talking:

"We tried out the new Chinese restaurant last night."
"Did you?"

"I'm going to Barbados next week on holiday."
"Are you? Lucky you!"

"It's snowing again."
"Is it?"

4. Repeat what the other person said
Do this especially if the other person has said something surprising.

"He won £200 on the lottery."
"£200!"

"I'm going to Barbados next week."
"Barbados!"

Other ways to avoid silence

Here are some more tips to help you say something - even if you haven't understood the other person or there's nothing else to say.

If you don't understand

"Sorry, I don't understand."
"Sorry, could you repeat that?"
"Sorry? I didn't get that."

If you don't know the word

"I can't find the word I'm looking for..."
"I'm not sure that this is the right word, but..."
"What I want to say is..."

If you can't find the word immediately

You don't want to be completely silent, but you need time to find the words.

"Well..."
"OK..."
"So..."

You can even make some "noises"

"Hmmm..."
"Uh-huh"
"Umm..."

Agreeing with the other person

You want to show that you agree, but you don't have anything else to say.

"Yeah."
"Right."

Changing the subject

Everyone in the conversation has given an opinion, and now you want to talk about something else.

"Anyway,..."
"Well, as I was saying..."
"So, back to ..."
"So, we were saying ..."

Rephrase

Sometimes we say things that other people don't understand, or we give the wrong impression. Here are some expressions you can use to say something again.

"What I meant to say was..."
"Let me rephrase that..."
"Let me put this another way..."
"Perhaps I'm not making myself clear..."

Go back to the beginning

If you're explaining something, and you realise that the other person doesn't understand, you can use the following phrases:

"If we go back to the beginning..."
"The basic idea is..."
"One way of looking at it is..."
"Another way of looking at it is..."

For more help with English conversations and speaking, see Better English speaking skills.

Keeping a Conversation Going Quiz

Level: Elementary and above

1. You help someone and they say ''Thank you''. Your reply is:

Please
No thanks
You're welcome
You're welcome / My pleasure = a standard reply to ''Thank you''.

2. Someone tells you that they failed an exam. You say:

Good luck
That's a pity
That's terrible
That's a pity / That's a shame = you know that it is bad news, and you show pity for the other person.

3. A friend tells you that her mother had an accident. You say:

Bad luck!
Oh really?
Oh no!
Oh no = you are shocked and sad by some news.

4. Someone says something surprising that you don't believe. You say:

I'm not sure
What's up?
You're joking!
You're joking = You can't be serious!

5. A colleague tells you that her son's football team lost the match they'd trained so hard for. You say:

Bad news
Oh yeah
That's a shame
That's a shame = That's a pity

6. Someone says something so surprising or shocking that you don't know how to reply! You say:

I don't understand
Wow!
You're unbelievable!
Wow = something you can say when you have no words to reply.

7. A friend apologises to you about something and says ''Sorry''. You say:

Don't worry about it
It's not fine
You're wrong
Don't worry about it / It's fine / No worries = everything is OK.

8. Someone says something a little surprising. You say:

Really?
Sure?
Strange!
Really (with a rising intonation and stress on the second syllable -ly) = ''I'm surprised''.

9. Someone calls you by the wrong name. You reply:

Actually, my name's...
Wrong! My name's ...
You're mistaken. My name's...
You can say ''actually'' as a polite way to contradict someone.

10. You're standing at a bus stop. The person next to you says ''Terrible weather, today!'' You reply:

Isn't it!
No way!
Too bad
Using a tag question (like ''isn't it) shows agreement with the other person.

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